November 13, 2021

 

Good Morning everyone, its 42 degrees and sunny at the moment but will be changing later today as we are supposed to get rain, high winds, and perhaps hale.  As I just said to my brother via text that’s just great.  I am having a friend come for visit for lunch.

This week has been a fairly busy and somewhat wild week.  I was ending up not writing anything because I was too tired and pretty much going to bed early for most of the week.  I say most but there were  a few nights I tried to stay up late and work.

Last Sunday Sis and I had a rather uncomfortable discussion about finances.  She was insisting she look at them and I kept setting boundaries.  She came to the conclusion I was hiding stuff.  That I haven’t been doing as I promised getting the credit card balances down or staying on the budget.  That I must be “lying” about things to Debra or don’t tell Debra the whole story.  She qualified that statement with “Not really lying but we give ourselves permission” to do things.

She sent me a text the next day that I need to be vigilant on keeping up with the bill paying (and I told her a few times that I have been paying the bills, when she asked.  She asked a bunch of questions about how I was paying for the car whether it was with the credit card or what.  What state my bank account was at (over drawn).  Anyway, the veiled threat was I could lose everything, including the condo.  She said it wasn’t a threat but a real possibility.  Again I feel like I need to scream at her and say those are getting paid. 

She constantly challenges me in the wrong way.  IF I am baking or getting ready for parties: or planning on attending events.  Its either oh you could do this, or that.  Why don’t you get everyone a little gift?   Um hello?  You say I should not go spending on stuff yet you want me to get all this?  I told her I don’t buy extravagantly.  She thinks I should give my friend Dave a high-end gift.  It made me angry. 

When I told Debra all this she reminded me that. When Liz does this just say Hey thanks but I am going to do this or thanks I will think about it.  If Liz insists I can tell her no I don’t want to discuss finances, or review it monthly as Liz wants to according to her text.  I can tell her she is my sister, not my guardian, or care taker, or my mother. 

In other sibling news Brother J texted us to inform that the biopsy he had earlier in the week went well.  It was in his bladder.  However, the results not really great, its slow growing and non-invasive.  When Liz first heard this she said you didn’t say anything about it.   He didn’t say anything to me. 

In between all that, I have been trying to organize my budgets (making ledgers) and working, and getting ready for my friends visit this afternoon.

Right now the house is almost cleaned I have to wash the kitchen floor and then shower, and prepare lunch.